No one has proved it scientifically that you cna't stay friends.
Some people manage it really well.
A couple I know went out for a meal to celebrate their divorce.
Yes, a meal together! It shocked the waitress too!
People often say they want to stay friends. Most of the time
I think it is to appease the guilt that they feel about breaking
up (Perhaps its their fault the relationship is over, whether they
didn't try very hard, or whether they found someone else)
For people who can't stay friends there isn't any need really
unless you spend hours together at work, or through joint interests.
Getting a divorce usually brings out the worst in people as
they fight over money, possessions and their home. Fights over
children often result in great rows and arguments.
Staying friends is often meant to be important for the children's
sake. It might seem unnatural to them though if you are sweetness
and light with each other when split up but hell when you were
together.
Being friends with someone after they've been your lover can
be difficult but its not impossible. I'm sure there are lots of
people in offices around the world who've been out together who
manage to get on well with each other.
It also helps if you were friends before!
hints for staying friends
Don't expect too much at firstDon't expect to double date!
Don't spend your time reminiscing.
It is hard so don't expect it not to be.
Go out with other friends too. |